29th Oct 09
David
As i was a typical quixotic youth i would often hear the old adage ?the grass is always greener on the other side?. It has forever been used to illustrate that even though things may look better from an observers point of view and that this isn?t always true. We are told that we should be happy with what we have because the other option probably isn’t as good as it seems.
When i was young i would read Goosebumps gamebooks that allow the reader to make choices in the story. I would always mark the pages so i could go back if i didn’t like what i had chosen. Unfortunately we cannot mark the pages of life and for making the wrong choice their will be consequences and regret for what we lost.
It is human nature to want for something more than we already possess. This is applicable for almost everything from jobs, status and wealth to relationships and lifestyles. For example many people have gotten ?cold feet? on their wedding day for they fear that making the commitment of marriage will close other options to them. This disposition to the feeling that what we possess is unsatisfactory is powered by curiosity of anything that is unknown to us and the overpowering urge to improve our lives.
Pursuing something that appeals to us will usually do more harm than good. By the time you realise that you were happy with what you had the damage done by your resultant actions could already be irreparable. By focusing on opportunities you will never get a chance to enjoy what you already have.
Sometimes jumping the fence into greener grass will be everything you always dreamed it would be. But because this is a somewhat improbable outcome i must offer that perhaps we should focus on ameliorating what we have rather than chasing alternatives in the hope of a quick fix. Because in reality the grass is always greener on the other side, no matter what side you on. So stop looking at your neighbours grass and start watering your own!
As for me, iv acknowledged my addiction to the pursuit of the greenest of grasses and the inherent consequences, there will be no rehab for me anytime soon.
someonewholovesyou
November 25th, 2009 at 18:06
You’re so right. We all make wrong choices but it is never too late to alter the consequences from the wrong choices that have been made. They simply serve as a lesson in life’s jouney to learn from and forge ahead in life. The trick is being wise enough and honest enough to admit that the choice may have been wrong and learn from it. It is never too late to make a start in a new direction and benefiting from the wisdom that life has given you.