26th Nov 09
David
Now all of this could be in my head, i hope it is, but is the number of smart women diminishing? I find myself unintentionally meeting alot of women of late but dismissing all of them just as quickly. I am not an arrogant person but when i am forced to keep a conversation going by talking like she is a child so she can understand me, i find it intolerable. Now i don’t expect anyone to be brushing up on Steven Hawking’s theory on the universe in their spare time, although it would be interesting. So agree with me, argue with me, hate me if you must. Any of the above would be preferable to those big round eyes of incomprehension.
I will use a recent experience in an attempt to explain my situation
Boy meets Girl.
Boy is attracted to girl and girl to boy.
Girl explains that she dosn’t read anything much because thinking makes her head hurt.
Boy loses respect and attraction for girl.
The End
Note ? This is one of the harsher examples.
The question is, why is it becoming socially acceptable for so many women to foster the ditsy cheerleader clich?, or perhaps i should say preferable? Is there some impression that the type of guy you are looking for is looking for these things in a woman? Perhaps this is somewhat egocentric but could it be that the long standing male insecurity and need for dominance is forcing women to ?water down? their mental assets in order to get the men they want ?
I do fully understand that the average guy would be only too happy to find a gorgeous woman with minimal intelligence and easily exploited self esteem issues. Instead i find my attention hanging by the last thread of physical attraction. Easy to impress, easy to get what you want, maybe too easy… I feel disadvantaged by wanting more from a woman than these simple superficial things, things which quickly grow boring.
Why? Because practically any girl can put on some makeup and a nice dress in order to catch someone’s eye, but catching someone?s mind, leaving an impression, that is a different matter. There is no makeup to be applied to a personality, it is the only true thing about a person. So show me something new, teach me something, be proud of what you know and you will leave a memory that is worth remembering.
A message to the few women with the uncompromising fortitude that i find so attractive, you know who you are. Thank you, you make it all worth while, don’t stop being who you are.
Elizabeth Bennett
December 19th, 2009 at 12:45
Hmmm well I’m not sure if the number of smart women is diminishing, but I can see how it would seem that way. It might be that the smarter ones aren’t in the places you have been meeting women (this would be no reflection on you by the way). It might be that the women who are more exposed and congratulated in society tend to be so based primarily upon their good looks and congenial personalities (and maybe they are smart too?). Or it might be that women are responding appropriately to constant messages about what makes them valuable and worthy.
There is not an impression that the type of guy I/other women are looking for is looking for those things in a woman… I dare say (with regret) that there is an impression that most, if not all, guys in general notice only certain things, and that the ones who are different are the exceptions. It is very nice to read your post and be reminded that there is diversity underneath, and that what Zoo and Ralph covers tell us is not necessarily the truth
Thank-you.
Ps. In stating the above I am not saying I would rather be a short, broke or bald man. But I guess that is another discussion for another day.